If the universe is the whole, and you're part of the whole: you share the organizing power.
How powerful this is and also how much responsibility it holds: we are all creators.
"You cannot afford to live with a toxic mind, because every thought makes an impression on the whole field of intelligence." (quote from Deepak Chopra)
Feed your brain with the right stuff
Thoughts on books, articles, reviews, interesting ideas by Borbala Hidegh
Sunday, 5 October 2014
Saturday, 5 April 2014
"Your money or your life" more ideas
based on the book written by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin
As humans we often think we deserve the best, and we want to achieve "the best" by buying more and more gadgets, clothes, appliances, cars, houses, vacations, memberships...but all this stuff just piles up, brings a few moments of joy, after which we are looking for the next mean of satisfying this never ending need. We put in so much effort in creating superficial happiness, but rarely align our actions with our real purpose in life: by spending our life energy on not true fulfillment we end up with less life.
We don't need more. We need ENOUGH.
Being wise about our life energy means defining what is enough for us and enjoying what we have to the maximum. Waste is ultimately our failure to enjoy the things we have.
Most of us define our JOB as our WORK, and for many: this is also our life. We tend to honor our job, but never seem to have enough time or patience for the other aspects of our life, such as self development, family, the community; like everything outside our job has lost its vitality and its value. Most of us would judge or consider failure a person who is not integrated in the 9-to-6 scheme, doesn't have some successful business, or is not set on collecting income in some way.
One of the most important questions of the book is WHETHER OUR "JOB IS USING UP OUR LIFE?"
We expect our job to fill our needs and give us meaning, respect and power, to define our personality and our direction in life. The difference between what we do and who we are stands on this thin line, which for many ends up non-existent. We give the best years of our life to work, when in fact the purpose of our paid employment is payment. Self-development, learning, fulfillment, personal growth and success are all higher purposes which we can obtain either in connection with our job or not.
The problem is our confusion between the work we do and the paid employment. Our work has a much larger purpose, and it's based on living our values. We value our self when we work efficiently, intelligently, diligently, having an excellent reputation, and maximizing our use of the limited life energy we have. Working endless hours, and settling for mediocrity is a waste of our life.
Be the best at what you do, and have a bigger purpose than a life evolving around your job: Your job is not the main event of your life!
Saturday, 29 March 2014
Notes from the Brian Tracy Bucharest conference
Thoughts and Lessons from a soft-spoken speaker with incredible personal strength
(spreading great ideas in appreciation of the owner)
The quality our your life, actions and decisions depends on the quality of our thinking. Everything we do has consequences, but most of the time we spend doing things with low consequences, and we focus on low importance tasks instead of valuable and important ones. We are so accustomed with the habit of wasting time, that few of us does hard work, in solitude, with no technological stimulus and no back-ground noise. Leave things off to be able to concentrate on the tasks: create the silence.
At our work as much as 50% of the time is wasted by most average employees on non-work tasks, such as socializing with colleagues, long coffee breaks, gossip, online social networks... People go to work to "play" with their friends, just as they used to go to play in kindergarten or school. A wasted work-life means less value of the person.
Only hard work, focus, and increasing our earning ability can make us become more valuable. Do fewer things, but the ones which are part of the three most important tasks...and do them more and more, instead of time-wasting unimportant ones. Each person decides how much she/he wants to earn and decides whether to take action, accept to fail, try something new, and continue forward. Develop a sense of urgency and quick action. Top people think about what they want most of the time, and HOW they can get it. Unsuccessful people think about things they don't want, who is there to blame, they don't take charge of their own route and look at the present or the past. Those who don't plan for the future: have no future.
Our reputation precedes US: be the best at what you do, and have an excellence orientation. Have the attitude of curiosity and be solution oriented. Whatever you do at your work can be reduced to "solving problems", and if you solve problems: you get bigger problems, more complex ones. Average people approach problems emotionally, whereas geniuses approach them systematically. Any goal which is not achieved is a problem that is not solved.
Ultimately our life only gets better when WE get better: invest in your self and be a continuous learning machine, as the only limit to your development is you.
Saturday, 15 February 2014
True Leadership
Simon Sinek's Leaders Eat Last
One of the best quotes on Leadership
"The goal of a leader is to give no orders (...). Leaders are there to provide direction and intent and allow others to figure out what to do and how to get there. And this is the challenge most organizations face. We train people to comply, not to think. (...) If people only comply, we can't expect people to take responsibility for their actions. The chain of command is for orders, not information. Responsibility is not doing as we are told, that's obedience. Responsibility is doing what is RIGHT."
Tuesday, 4 February 2014
On proposing a "Personal Development" strategy
Why companies are so reluctant to offer non-job related trainings
or presentations?
I was reading an article this morning regarding Candy Crush Saga
developer, King, and at some point the article pointed out that employees are
having training in the fields of nutrition, health, African countries,
volunteering, etc…
I admit I was intrigued, I have never heard until now any of my
employers having the courage to bring such benefits to the employees.
When thinking about employee motivation the bonus structure, the
incentives, KPI’s and KPO’s are so well embedded, that it is hard to see, that
money is just a small part of abundance. Is somebody with a huge bonus really
abundant and wealthy? Or is wealth and abundance a relative feeling which comes
from an intrinsic motivation or reason? I can’t help remembering Marsha Sinetar
saying “Do what you love the money will follow”, or Tony Robbins suggesting to
help your employer see what you and your colleagues really want. Actually as I appreciate
the inspiration people like Robbins or Branson give, and I am not afraid of stating
my opinion even though sometimes weird or not ordinary as encouraged by Seth
Godin…I have myself tried last year to propose a new training structure to the
giant I am working for. I have presented to the HR department and two of my
managers how we can change the attitude of the employees (having quite high attrition),
how we should show them more that we as company care, by helping them
developing communication and leadership skills, not just “on the job trainings”.
My proposition was to create a team of excellence, in which to
have actually our own employees who are passionate about reading and
development, who are great in presenting and bringing ideas alive, who are
interested in discussions which are not limited to macros, standardization,…or who
went out with who in the office… Working in a 400 plus employees “financial hub”
finding about 10 people to create this team is more than reasonable and also doesn’t
require additional financial funds. Working in an Asian environment where most
people are afraid to stand up, to look around, to share their opinion, breaking
down some big cultural barriers and bringing a more open communication I would
see a reasonable and beneficial thing to do. The hub which was more like a
modern factory thanked me for the idea, and even though I proposed a list of
topics, they were very reluctant. In the end the only effect of all this was to
have a 6 hour long training held by British Council on “How to write an email?”…specially
addressed to Asians’ over-polite attitude.
Are giants ready to move out of their comfort zone, or how long
we still have to wait until we see a surprising, out of ordinary improvement? Or
do we have to wait or take the leap and pick ourselves to be excellent where
this is not hindered by out aged rules?
Do companies want monkeys, servants, mediocre or computer like
people who get the job done…or do they want a bit of that sparkle? Anybody can
punch in some numbers, process some journals and produce similar reports from
one month to another as typical to most of our outsourcing companies “standard
deliverables”…but who is actually courageous enough to analyze the trends and
give frank feedback without being in a management position, look behind the
reasons, have the curiosity to connect the operations with the numbers… Working
in finance should not be limited to following instructions and producing
reports: it should give us that great curiosity to see WHY these numbers are
representing our activity. Numbers tell the story, and they connect people and
materials, how can we see the true value if we are afraid to look deep enough
or to look ahead enough? We are not just minions calculating standard
percentages, we are individuals who have the brainpower to give interpretation,
to analyze, to connect, to see the business but to visualize outside the
business, to have the attitude of not working for a company but rather creating
the value together with other colleagues. We are all dispensable and replaceable…but
we can all bring something unique, we can all feel a connection to our workplace
which makes us want to develop it, and feel like we are part of it, and as it
is our own.
And if this feeling of loyalty and belonging for me, and probably
some other employees comes from some topics which are discussed together, but not
related to the strict list of tasks we are doing: what would be really the loss
of the company to get engaged in doing a “Personal Training School” compared to
the massive benefits it could discover by actually seeing those hundreds or
thousands of employees as individuals and not a number on the payroll?
Monday, 3 February 2014
Saturday, 1 February 2014
What would I do with 1 million USD?
Money should flow and circulate
A common point of many rich people is that they are giving back part of their fortune to the society by charities, by sponsoring events, schools, libraries, universities...
I was inspired by Andrew Carnegie's view ("The Gospel of wealth") saying we have 3 options to get rid of our money, as obviously we cannot take it with us ... this would be to leave it to the family, leave it to a public purpose upon death or distribute during our lifetime. He sees little value in giving all your money to the family (who might tend to be mediocre and not continue hard work), or to charity and poor (mostly because many who have nothing would fritter it away on indulgences), but rather using your imagination, diligence and creativity to distribute it actively to create maximum social benefit and maximum value.
Well I don't exactly know how rich people handle their finances, never being a millionaire myself, but in any case at a point in my life I might as well be very rich, so why not have a little thinking about what would I do.
I agree with Carnegie in investing your money back to the society and creating value. I would definitely focus on young people: high-school and university students, because from Eastern Europe point of view they have little to no guidance and help on how to be prosperous, how to advance, how to choose the right career, how to have the guts to change if something is not fulfilling and not settle for mediocrity.
I would give students a 1 year guidance class, where once a week the students would be presented what universities/ masters/ business schools there are (in and outside the country), what student loans and grants are available, what exams are necessary to qualify later as an international hire, what career paths they can follow: and this one would go into presenting them what an engineer does and how different this is depending on the industry, what an architect does, how an accountant works, what is the beauty of sales, what type of jobs you can do with a law degree, what is an eye doctor and what is a day of a nutritionist, how to be an entrepreneur or have your own (online) business, etc.... I think there is so much to talk about and so much to present, and such a huge knowledge GAP when it comes to choices after finishing school.
As a second step I would involve companies to offer free internships to students (especially because in Eastern Europe companies refuse interns due to lack of finances), and also present the benefits to the students of working about a 1 year unpaid part-time internship, but this giving the necessary minimum experience to enter the job market, and not to be forced to start with invoice processing or call center agent next to the other 1.000 students doing the same repetitive tasks, and waiting to see if in a year or two something better would come around, or some teamlead would actually see that you are so much smarter than punching in information in a slow CRM or ERP...what nowadays you could teach to a monkey.
Few years ago after finishing high-school most of us chose university with little to no knowledge, and many of us just went on what is fashionable, what is the trend. We were unaware and we lost time and energy....some of us just a little and managed to get good positions and develop, others went along with good opportunities, most settled for safe but not challenging jobs...and there are the hundreds of lost great brains who are still jumping from one "short-term" to another, still figuring out, still feeling lost...And soon me and my colleagues, friends and fellow students will all reach our thirties...and are we happy with what we have achieved? Are we having the guts to create actual art and bring a difference and great value...or are we just making another new years resolution?
Well when I will be a rich person, I will put my energy in helping as many future students as possible to answer all these questions...because I believe in greatness, and I believe each one of us can bring a new value to this crazy chaotic market which we call business environment.
Monday, 20 January 2014
From "Your money or your life"
What is money? based on the book written by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin
People think about money in different ways: as power, as security, as happiness, as evil. But is it really any of these? The basic mistake people make is imagining money as external to themselves, something that they struggle for and that will magically give them well-being and personal worth.
Dominguez and Robin come up with another definition: it is something you trade your life energy for.
For most people this something is paid work. We meet most of our needs through money and spend most of our waking hours at work... The thinking goes: I work hard, therefore I deserve to make up for the hardship of work...I deserve nice clothes, vacations, luxury items.
The key is not earning more: but adjusting your lifestyle. Get off the treadmill and adopt a simpler living philosophy. After-all what do you want more: more time or more money?
Useful articles
I always enjoy reading Forbes articles over my morning tea...
This one made me think about the differences between men and women career-wise, and also how we should set and manage our salary-goals over the years
Being a person who encourages a good laugh, I fully agree with humour being as a key to success in the workplace...and a very good and simple way to bond. Humour reveals the authentic person, makes people more approachable, increases creativity, productivity...and just makes the work-day more enjoyable!
Focus and work smart all day by giving your brain the right ingredients: develop certain circuits: focus for deep circuits, connect to others, recover and relax, deep thinking and reflection (thoughtful thinking), laugh, exercise and sleep well!
http://www.forbes.com/sites/laurashin/2014/01/15/7-types-of-experience-your-brain-needs-to-function-at-its-best/2/
http://www.forbes.com/sites/laurashin/2014/01/15/7-types-of-experience-your-brain-needs-to-function-at-its-best/2/
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